Welcome! Allow me to introduce meself. I am Joreth, yer host. I am complex and multi-dimensional. I go by many names and labels. I use feminine pronouns such as she / her but I use masculine titles such as sir, "you guys", cameraman, etc. If you must add a prefix to my name, I prefer Mx. (pronounced "mix") but I would rather not be addressed formally at all and I prefer just using my names.
I am often asked where the name Joreth Innkeeper comes from. My high school sweetheart introduced me to the art of painting miniature figurines often used in table top role playing games. The second character I ever painted was named Joreth and she was an assassin / thief with long hair (which I painted dark brown), a female that was actually clothed in practical pants instead of gowns or a bikini, and a penchant for knives and poisons. When I first got online back in the '90s, nobody used their real names. Everyone used a pseudonym, a handle. When it came time for me to come up with a name to use online, I thought of my character who physically resembled me and with whom I identified because of my own interest in knives and in affecting events from the shadows, from behind the scenes. So I took the name, Joreth.
I displayed all my figurines from different worlds on a shelf that I designed to look like a tavern or an inn. I wrote a background story for the shelf, of this tavern being a place "in between" all the fantasy universes that opened up onto each of the character's worlds and they stumbled into this tavern usually by accident or without intent and where they met and interacted with all the characters from other fantasy and game universes who had similarly stumbled into the place. I named this tavern the Inn Between.
Later, I built this website and I discovered that I had several interests (Star Wars, Skoolies, polyamory, etc.) that did not overlap very much at that time. Meaning that there were communities for each of my interests, but very rarely did I encounter people who shared more than one of my interests at a time. Visitors to my website had started writing to me that they had found me because they searched for one of my interests in particular and my site had introduced them to other interests and communities that they had no idea even existed. Much like a digital version of my Inn Between. So I named my site the InnBetween after my fictional display, which made me, as the owner of the site, the Innkeeper.
Much later, I found myself in a polyamorous network that had adopted a "family" name called The Amorphous Squiggle. Much, much, much later, through a rather complicated series of facetious conversations, I ended up with a rather long set of formal titles that indicate my affiliations with several overlapping nodules or branches of my poly family (the full story is told in the room for The Amorphous Squiggle).
Imagine, if you will, a royal reception hall with a Court Marshall, a Grand Marshall, a Master of Ceremonies, or even a butler who stands at the door and shouts out the introductions as royalty and dignitaries make their grand entrance. This is my formal list of titles:
The Right Honourable Joreth Innkeeper d'Squiggle (Joreth Innkeeper of The Amorphous Squiggle)
Her Lordship, Baron of The Tangle
Social Justice Flame Warrior of the International Poly Justice League
Proprietor of the InnBetween
Outdoor Cat of the Amorphous Squiggle
Killer of Dreams
My short honorifics are "The Right Honorable Joreth", Lord Joreth, or my Lord (never "Lady Joreth", "my Lady", or "m'lady"). But you may just call me "Joreth".
Physical Description - Here is the form I choose when appearing in your realm:
5 feet, 5 inches tall
My eyes are tri-colored and the overall color depends on which band is dominant. Therefore they change color, from blue in most pictures, to green (rarely), and most commonly, hazel. The three colors are a thin band of dark green on the outside, a wide band of grey-blue inside, and a thin band of yellow-brown around the pupil with threads that spike into the grey-blue area. And no, I don't wear contacts, nor am I sidhe.
My hair is brown and is long enough to just sit on. Before you ask, my hair has always been long.
I have a slender but not athletic build. I'm working on the athletic part, though.
I am a tomboy and dress as such in military pants (BDU's), men's undershirt tank tops, steel-toe combat boots. I have been known to "dress up" for formal events and I often dress in costumes for events, but this is my preferred state.
I was born in January of 1977, rather than updating this every year for my age, you do the math.
Hobbies - (in no particular order)
Reading - anything and almost everything! I read Stephen King, fantasy/sci-fi, and yes, when I have nothing better to read, romance novels.
Cross stitching (not embroidery)
Singing - I'm a mezzo-soprano with no formal training and a choral background, no solos.
Dancing - swing dancing, night clubs, social ballroom (also known as dance sport or partner dance), latin dances, anything that I can learn and for which I can find a partner
Starting long and complicated projects, like converting a bus and building an edit suite
Arguing & ranting on the internet
Unique Compliments - creative and unique compliments are far more meaningful to most people than generic compliments that can apply to anyone or that are used on everyone. To really win points with someone, pick something unique about that person that references those elements they view as most important to their identity. The compliments that stand out most in my memory are:
"I don't think of you as heterosexual, I think of you as a gay man." - The full sexual identity "label" that I use is "gay man in a female's body who happens not to want genital reassignment" because, with our society's gender roles, I feel more like a man in my head but I happen to be comfortable in my female body and not interested in changing, and I'm only sexually attracted to men. But I just say "heterosexual" for short. I once used this shorthand in a blog post, and a friend responded with this line and it just made my day that he so "got" me!
"Joreth's in drag!" - Two separate people said this when they once saw me in a regular skirt. I was intending to do some casual swing dancing that night, and they had previously only seen me in my regular combat gear or in fetish clothing. I like this because dressing in feminine-style clothing feels like drag to me.
"You're fury-specced and dual wield switchblades" - I don't play World of Warcraft, but my sweetie Franklin does, and apparently this means that if I were a game character, I'd have a bad temper that gives me a beserker-like power and my weapon of choice is two switchblades.
"You look like you're a tactical unit" - given while stopped on the side of the road after work one day changing my blown-out tire. By a Sheriff. Yes, he said I looked like a tactical unit ... a whole unit.
"You're like a little ninja!" - received while at work, all in black, running around, lifting things I don't look like I could lift like 20 foot pipe with drape still attached.
"You are so treacherously delicious"
"She is an alpha but doesn't play dominance games. She doesn't have to be the ONLY alpha in the room, but she makes it very clear that she's an alpha" - a friend of a friend's description of me after first meeting me, told to said mutual friend.
Labels - some shorthand phrases and words that can be used to sum me up, but usually require longer explanation as can be found in my Online Me Manual:
Strong Atheist & Anti-theist
INTJ with slight preference on the "J" and bordering ISTP (Meyers-Briggs/MBTI)
Straight - my sexual orientation and my position on drugs and alcohol, but not my level of kink